insights and teaching from the desk of dr. stan may


Thursday
Feb092012

Getting What You Want from God

Why do people come to Christ and His churches?

To be honest, they come for many reasons. Some come because they are about to get married or have a baby, and they have no true circle of friends for a shower or wedding. Some come because they have financial or social needs no other group is meeting. Some come because of tradition or even the pressure of relatives. One brother even told me that he came to church as a youth to meet girls. While none of these reasons are necessarily wrong, they are insufficient for a true understanding of church. In fact, most who come for these reasons alone eventually drop out.

Perhaps a biblical story might explain this idea. Luke's Gospel records the story of Jesus and the 10 lepers (Luke 17:11-19). Ten lepers--men whose physical affliction made them social outcasts and religious rejects--saw Jesus; from afar they called out to Him to have mercy on them. He commanded them to go show themselves to the priests and offer what the Law commanded for cleansing. The Bible says, "As they went, they were healed." Excitedly, they hurried on their way--all but one. This man--a Samaritan (a half-breed despised by the Jews)--returned to give thanks to and worship Jesus. Jesus responds with a question and an affirmation. His question: "Where are the nine? Were not ten healed?" His affirmation: "Go in peace; your faith has saved you" (17:19). All ten received what they wanted from Jesus; nine wanted only healing, but one knew he needed more. He realized that Jesus is not just a Healer; He is Savior and Lord. This Samaritan alone went away with a life changed both outside and inside.

You may have come to church for many reasons; if you do not meet Jesus as Lord of all and Savior of sinners, you miss out. You may end up with gifts from your shower, help for your temporary financial need, or even a new circle of friends, but the Lord Jesus offers genuine love, unconditional acceptance, and eternal purpose to all who bow the knee to Him and trust Him truly as Lord. Come, but be sure that you get what you truly need, not just what you want.

Friday
Aug192011

Ten Truths About Offenses

 

  1. Offenses must come (Luke 17:1)
  2. Mature Christians will not take such offenses to heart (Ps. 119:165)
  3. Most offenses are meant to be ignored (Eccl. 7:21-22 )
  4. Offenses that cannot be ignored are to be addressed properly
  5. The offended person cannot tell others about the offense until he/she has gone to the offender to restore the relationship
  6. The person who involves others in the offense without seeking restoration commits a second and greater offense (Prov. 11:3; 18:8)
  7. The offended one must go to the offender and seek restoration (Lev. 19:16-18)
  8. The offender must repent or go through the process of church discipline (Mt. 18)
  9. The circle of confession about the offense can never be greater than the circle of knowledge about the offense (Prov. 25:8-10)
  10. The offender must get right if he realizes he has offended a brother (Mt. 5:23-24)

 

Thursday
Jun022011

Why Develop Discipline?

You’re on a mission trip hundreds of miles away from home. You’re involved in work you probably don’t do on a daily basis. To top it all off, you’re asked to have a devotional time every day before you go out. Why in the world are you doing all of this stuff? Why should you develop discipline, especially in the area of your Christian life?

You’ve probably had to develop discipline in some area of your life before this day. Perhaps you’ve learned to play a musical instrument—the piano, or perhaps the guitar. You remember well the tedium of practice; if you’re honest, some days you were bored out of your mind. If you stayed with it, however, you found that you eventually could play pretty well, and you may even now be using that talent.

Perhaps you don’t play an instrument, but you play a sport. If you play football, you remember the grueling summer drills when you ran laps and sprints, and when you did agility drills. Many days you wanted to quit—practice just wasn’t what you had in mind when you signed up—but you kept at it, and now you enjoy the sport. No matter what sport you learned, it required discipline to excel.

Maybe you’re not into either one of these hobbies, but you take your schoolwork seriously. You don’t want merely to pass—you want to excel and win a scholarship. You stay up nights, you write papers that express your thought clearly, you develop your ideas, or you learn every notation on the periodic table, just to be ready to pass the test with ease.

Every person who develops discipline knows of a time between the beginning of their journey and theattainment of their goal that requires discipline. Discipline means the willingness to stick to what’s important when it doesn’t feel like it so that when it does matter, you’re ready. Tom Landry, the legendary coach of the Dallas Cowboys, put it this way, “Discipline is getting men to do what they don’t want to do to become what they want to become.” The writer of Hebrews put it this way, “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it” (Hebrews 12:11).

What is the “harvest of righteousness”? What is it that you “want to be”? Every musician hates practice, but no musician wants to blow it at the recital (or worse yet, in front of your peers when you are asked to perform). No football player likes “two-a-days,” but every player loves to win the big game in front of the crowds. Nobody likes studying, but the student who receives the scholarship for his or her grades sees the fruit of all the hard work pay off.

We who are Christians are promised a Day when we will stand before Jesus. We won’t be judged for our sin, for that took place at the cross. The Lord Jesus will judge us, however; Paul writes, “For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, that each one may receive what is due him for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad” (2 Cor. 5:10). On that Day, we don’t want to be ashamed. On that Day, we want to hear Him say, “Well done.” So, do what you must this day—develop the painful discipline that seems slow and unrewarded—but keep in mind the Day, because on that Day the disciplines of this day that you do—or do not—will matter.

Sunday
Mar062011

Prayer Journal

Because I've been asked to do this, like, a million times (well, actually, Joe Andrews asked, but my conscience kept nagging me to do it), I am writing out some basic ideas for a prayer journal. I've kept a prayer journal for at least two decades now, and I make changes to the journal regularly. A prayer journal is not a legalistic formula that I feel like I have to finish; rather, my prayer journal helps me accomplish several goals for my own life. I want to be a man of prayer who prays regularly and specifically; I want to pray for people regularly and keep my promises; I want to invest in the lives of others, and prayer is the greatest investment I can make in people's lives; I want to fulfill the pastoral role of intercessor for the flock as I stand between them and the world (Acts 6:4; Ps. 106:23); and, I want to be more like Jesus, and Jesus is right now praying interceding for His people by name in the heavenlies (Hebrews 7:25).

Now as to the specifics of praying for people:

This is not in my journal per se, but I begin every day with a season of prayer, praying Scripture verses for the people for whom I will pray. I pray verses of thanks (Ps. 118:24; 136:1; 1 Thess. 5:16-18), I pray verses of dedication (Romans 6:10-13; 12:1-2), I surrender to the Holy Spirit and ask Him to fill me (Ps. 81:10; Eph. 5:18), I pray verses Paul prayed for the people of God (Rom. 15:13; Phil. 1:9-11; Eph. 3:14-21; Col. 1:9-14; Col. 4:12), I pray verses for growth in grace (2 Pet. 3:18; Rom. 8:29), and I pray verses of warfare (2 Cor. 10:3-5 and sometimes Eph. 6:10-18). I also pray through the Model Prayer of Matt. 6:9-13 to remind me of its great truths:

1. Privilege to Call God Father and the Price He paid so I could

2. Praise to God for He is Worthy ("Hallowed be Your Name")

3. Purpose for life and ministry ("Your kingdom come, Your will be done on earth as in heaven")

4. Provision for every day ("Give us this day our daily bread")--moral, physical, emotional, spiritual

5. Pardon for self and others--reminding me to forgive those who have hurt me

6. Protection from myself and from the Evil one ("lead us not into temptation but deliver us from the evil one")

7. Power for service and glory to God ("for Yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory")

My Journal is made up of 8 sections:

Daily

  • I pray for my family--nuclear and extended
  • I pray for some special people in my life and around it--both lost and saved
  • I pray for my church family--all the regular attenders and about 40 lost people in and around our church
  • I pray for the school--administration, faculty, staff, donors, trustees, students, alumni, finances, revival
  • I pray for our government leaders (I have a list of national, state, and local leaders and their families)

Sunday

I pray through the entire church roll

Monday

I pray for the school--faculty (& wives and children), trustees, donors, and students

Tuesday

I pray for the school staff, spouses, and families (although I actually pray for them by name several times each week from memory)

Wednesday

I pray for friends that are special and lost friends who need Christ

Thursday

I pray for all my students for the semester by name along with their families

Friday

I pray for missionaries (I actually pray for many of these by name every day, but Friday I have a list of about 80 missionary families so that I take their names as well as their children's names before the Lord)

Saturday

I pray for about 80 pastors, their churches, their wives, and their families

This structure helps me to pray for people and invest in their lives weekly. If it serves as a guide to help you develop an organized prayer pattern, perhaps all this typing will have been worth it. If you see this as legalism, my only question to you is, How do you pray for those you love regularly?

Monday
Apr052010

Mercy for the Messenger

Mercy seems to have gone out of fashion. Lawsuits among Christians are on the rise, over 1000 pastors are terminated every year, and church splits have reached alarming proportions. Churches and believers today need a new appreciation for loving mercy; they need to hear Micah’s clarion call anew, “He has shown you, O man, what is good; and what does the LORD require of you but to do justly, to love mercy, and to walk humbly with your God?”

The prophet Micah lived seven hundred years before Christ and wrote to a nation in spiritual decline; along with his contemporary Isaiah, he sought to call the nation back to true worship and practice before God. His summary statement of God’s requirements is perhaps the most well-known verse in his prophecy (although 5:2 is quoted in Matthew’s Gospel), and these few lines summarize well God’s desire for His people. The first section of this triad deals with the horizontal relationship of justice, the third phrase discusses the vertical aspect of humility before God, but the middle portion balances both the vertical and horizontal aspects of the human and divine relationships.

Loving “mercy” has to do with covenantal relationships; faithfulness, loyalty, kindness, and mercy together express the idea of this one Hebrew word (חֶסֶד). This word often speaks of the loyalty or covenant faithfulness that God shows to humanity and that humans should show to God. For example, Hosea addresses the nation’s lack of loyalty toward God, “O Ephraim, what shall I do to you? O Judah, what shall I do to you? For your faithfulness is like a morning cloud, and like the early dew it goes away” (Hosea 6:4). This word also speaks of human relationships, as Micah indicates. When in the context of human relationships, the ideas of loyalty and mercy suggest that men live in right relationships with one another; this means both that believers should work to  develop right relationships, and when broken, they should seek to reestablish those relationships. One key way to restore relationships is through forgiveness.

Forgiveness is the truest sense of showing mercy toward others. Mercy does not give what is deserved, but instead what is undeserved. When David had established his kingdom, he asked, “Are there any yet left of the house of Saul, to whom I may show kindness for Jonathan’s sake?” (2 Sam. 9:1). His merciful actions to Mephibosheth were based on his covenant with Jonathan, but they certainly display more than mere covenantal obligations. David shows mercy in every facet of its meaning as he welcomes this cripple into his home, seats him at his table, and restores to him his grandfather’s land.

Forgiveness extends the olive branch of mercy to those who have hurt or offended us. Mercy compels us to forgive because we realize the great debt we have been forgiven, the great mercy we have received, and the great love that we have tasted. Loving mercy means that we are able to look at our offenders and say, “There, but for the grace of God, go I.” Loving mercy means that we have been loved to mercy.

Jesus teaches us to pray for forgiveness in the Lord’s Prayer, “and forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors” (Mt. 6:11). Our forgiveness toward others is predicated on the Divine forgiveness that we have received. He makes this clear in the parable concerning forgiveness found in Matthew 18:21-35. After Peter questions Him about the number of times he must forgive his brother (7), Jesus responds with a story. The story follows two servants in debt, one who owes in modern terms about $10,000.00 to a fellow servant, and the other who owes about $6,000,000,000.00 ($6 billion) to the king. The king freely forgives the man in astronomical debt; in an astounding turn of events, this forgiven servant immediately finds his debtor and does not forgive him what is comparatively a minor debt.

Through this story, the Lord Jesus teaches that forgiveness is not measured. Both His reply to Peter (“seventy times seven”) and His illustration of this incredible debt reveal a truly immeasurable forgiveness. Forgiveness cannot be measured by the harm done, the offense taken, the words uttered, or the actions committed (and even the consequences of these actions). Forgiveness is given without measure.

Jesus continues to show that forgiveness also is not merited. Neither slave did anything to merit their forgiveness; it was simply granted. Those who will not forgive others believe in some way that the forgiveness they have received is deserved, while the forgiveness they withhold is acceptable in the eyes of God. True forgiveness, however, is granted apart from any merit on the part of the one forgiven.

Jesus concludes by showing that forgiveness is based on mercy (Mt. 18:33). Loving mercy always means  extending forgiveness; it is both a covenant obligation and an act of kindness. Forgiveness flows from a heart filled with mercy—the mercy that comes from having experienced forgiveness.

Recently I went through an experience of personal hurt. Someone struck out at my loved ones and hurt them. As I prayed through that experience, I have experienced the joy of forgiving, even though those who inflicted the hurt have not asked for forgiveness. I have prayed daily for them in obedience to the Model Prayer of Matthew 6, and each day I have chosen to forgive and leave them with the Lord. My joy is full and my heart is light; I have chosen to love mercy rather than to hold a grudge.

Unforgiveness is a merciless prison of the soul (Mt. 18:34). Only by loving mercy do God’s people avoid that prison, and only by loving mercy do they escape that prison when they find themselves in it. The pathway to loving mercy is the pathway of humbling oneself before God, the honest appraisal of our own depravity and His wonderful grace that overcomes our sin and forgives us. Loving mercy means that we give freely of what we have received, without measure or merit, based solely on the mercy we have tasted, and knowing how sweet it